We will counsel you on your unspeakable concerns.
National...
- competition on worries. - Competition on worries.
Let us introduce today's guests.
Charming actress, Kim Ji Young.
(Actress Kim Ji Young)
Hello.
The TV personality, Han Suk Joon.
- Welcome. - Hello, I am Han Suk Joon.
Model, Song Hae Na.
(Model Song Hae Na)
Innocent balladeer, San Deul.
San Deul.
- San Deul is the best. - Right.
Ji Young, the entire nation knows your family.
Your husband is Nam Sung Jin. Your father-in-law is Nam Il Woo.
Your mother-in-law is Kim Yong Rim.
Does your family being too well-known give you any worries?
Worries? Everyone needs to behave carefully.
- Because you're well-known? - Yes.
When one person does something wrong, the entire family is doomed.
Right.
That's very dangerous.
- Everyone is doomed. - Tell us one anecdote.
- It hasn't happened yet. - It hasn't happened yet.
My parents-in-law are such upright people.
- They are good. - Yes. They've always been.
- Right. - I think I am the problem.
I joined the family as the youngest member.
When I get drunk, I sometimes bite my mother-in-law.
- You bite your mother-in-law? - Yes.
"I love you, Mother." But I don't remember it the next day.
(She's cute.)
Suk Joon is here.
A lot of announcers have become freelancers.
- Jang Sung Kyu is one. - Yes.
He says I should be worried because he's my strong rival.
- But his rival is... - Who is it?
- not me. - Who is it then?
It's Jun Hyun Moo.
He's in variety show scene too.
He should be worried about Hyun Moo.
- Who is your rival then? - It's Oh Sang Jin of course.
Oh Sang Jin.
- It's Oh Sang Jin for me. - I see.
The ones who look decent fight each other.
By the way, he's such a sucker for his daughter.
He dearly loves his daughter.
You must adore everything about her, but when is she especially adorable?
- There's this. - He's got a baby.
I had my child at the age of 44, and I am 45 now.
I love the smell of her breath.
The smell of your daughter's breath.
- Babies have a special smell. - Yes. It's like the smell of milk.
- They have that particular smell. - They do. I think I know.
Is it similar to liking the smell of a dog's sole?
How can you compare my daughter's mouth to a dog's sole?
I haven't seen her in a while, and she's upsetting me.
- The smell of dog's sole? - No. It smells really good.
If you disregard a dog's sole,
you will make the host of "Animal Farm" sad.
(The host of "Animal Farm" is sad to hear it.)
(He's right.)
Who did your daughter take after? Your wife...
or you? I am very curious.
- My goodness. - She's so cute.
- She's so adorable. - She's like a doll.
- She's really cute. - She's like a doll.
(Her big eyes melt our hearts.)
- She's... - She's really cute.
- My goodness. - She's really pretty.
That's when she was 200 days old.
I tried the photo filter application that makes you look younger.
My face looked like your daughter.
- I tried the application. Yes. - Are you serious?
- Really? - I'm not lying. It's true.
I really looked like your daughter.
Do you want to smell my breath? It will smell the same.
(I said, I looked just like her.)
Smell her breath.
Smell it.
(He's taken aback.)
- Hae Na, you were born... - Yes?
with a nice body. You've always been like this, right?
I like eating so much,
so I work out on a regular basis no matter what.
Can you show us some easy exercises we can do at home?
- People wear sleeveless shirts now. - Exactly.
A sleeveless shirt exposes flabby arms.
- What a realistic expression. - Flabby arms.
That must be a professional jargon.
It's a very simple move.
Put your little fingers together like this and lift your arms up.
(Repeat lifting up and putting down your arms!)
It's harder than it seems. It makes your arms...
- My arms are shaking. - That's right.
- My arms are shaking too. - Right?
- Lift them up again. - My arms are shaking.
Doesn't it look like a religious ritual?
Like this.
(Flabby arms, go away.)
Then the fat in here will decrease.
For arm fat. Can you teach us one more move?
- A move to reduce side fat. - That'd be great.
- Side fat? - Yes, side fat.
Lift your arms out to the sides.
(Move your upper body from side to side.)
Move like this.
- Like this? - I don't think it'll help.
- How? - Move your upper body...
I'm sorry, but you should've just said you didn't know any moves.
- If you improvise it like this, - I didn't improvise it.
we're in a difficult position.
(Make sure to try it at home.)
San Deul is also here with us. You released a new song.
- Yes. - Yoon Jong Shin made the song?
Yes. Many of Jong Shin's songs are...
- about a man missing someone... - That's right.
- They're not cool. - That's right.
- Like he's clinging on to her. - Think about "Like It".
It's as if he says, "Are you happy?"
(Pathetic mode on)
- Right. - It feels like it.
But that's not your dating style?
Do you forget your girlfriend once you break up with her?
(Thinking hard)
Right now,
(You can't just say it, right?)
He's very confused.
It's been a long time since he made his debut,
but he's still not sure to what extent he should be honest.
No.
- He's not sure... - It's understandable.
- "One Fine Day". - Yes.
Can you sing it for us?
All right. I'll sing for you.
(Let us hear your song.)
("One Fine Day" by San Deul)
(For that alone)
(I'm grateful)
(Singing high notes powerfully)
(He is awesome.)
That was amazing.
- Thank you. - Great job!
Today, we have three stories as always.
Show us the keywords, please.
(The keywords are revealed.)
"Am I a Pushover?"
"See No One Else But Me!"
"We Are Sinners".
("Am I a Pushover?", "See No One Else But Me!", "We Are Sinners")
It's "Am I a Pushover?"
We have roles of a husband and a wife.
- Considering your public image, - Yes?
- please play the wife. - Okay. I'll do that.
(San Deul will play the wife.)
Hello. I'm a woman in my 40s,
and I have twin boys in eighth grade.
My husband hasn't changed at all...
during the past 17 years of our marriage.
"How dare you eat with men at the same table as a woman?"
What?
Whenever I come home after going out, he says,
"How dare you come home so late as a woman?"
He always talks about how I should behave as a woman.
He practically acts like a king in Joseon dynasty.
"Wife, bring me a cup of water."
"Fix me something to eat."
When I'm busy doing house chores...
"Honey, can't you help me with house chores at least on weekends?"
"That's not what the head of a family does."
"It's women's duty to do house chores."
What annoys me the most is...
that he takes the stress from work out on his family.
"My life is this hard because of you guys."
"Darn. Why did I marry..."
"a woman from a poor family?"
(Why did I marry a woman from a poor family?)
(Shocked)
"Honey, how could you say such a thing?"
- "That hurts my feelings." - My goodness.
"How dare you cut me off as a woman?"
"You don't do anything at home."
"Gosh. I don't want to see any of you. Get out, all of you."
I packed my stuff and left home several times.
She actually left home?
I can't stand it anymore.
Please help to fix my inconsiderate, self-centered husband.
Oh, man.
Is there still a person like him these days?
Her husband sounds like a man from the past.
At first, he sounded like my husband.
- What? - He's always consistent.
- He's a little feisty. - What?
Can you give us an example?
For example, when I gain some weight, he says,
"How do you maintain your arms and thighs so thick?"
Like this.
- He mocks you. - He speaks sarcastically?
I bet he just jokes around you.
- He really means it. - He does?
- After I gave birth to our baby, - Really?
he said, "Could there be one more baby in your belly?"
(He's brutally honest.)
- "I think a baby didn't get out." - He really is consistent.
Her husband always says jokes as if he means it.
- Maybe it's because he's an actor. - He can be misunderstood.
How about you, Suk Joon?
- I'm sure of it. - My wife and I don't...
squabble with each other a lot.
Because I had sinned before marrying her,
I never treat my wife badly.
- Getting remarried is not a sin. - Exactly.
Thank you for pointing that out.
I thought some of them might not know what you meant.
Some people in the audience actually nodded when you said that.
(I am happy.)
Now let's meet with our guest.
(Who is living a hard life because of her patriarchal husband?)
(Yoo Sook Yi)
(Welcome.)
Does he really...
talk about how women should behave...
like old people used to say?
Yes, he talks about it all the time.
When we eat, he says,
"How dare you eat with men as a woman?"
(How dare you eat with men as a woman?)
Could he be joking?
"How dare you, a woman..." He says it like this?
He also says doing house chores is a woman's duty...
because he earns money.
He says that although we both have a job.
- You work too? - Both of you have a job?
- That's not fair. - Even so?
I've been working for over 20 years.
Even when I have team dinner,
my husband hates it when I go home late.
He says, "How dare you come home so late as a woman?"
- Like this. - How late was it?
After 7pm,
(7pm!)
- He says... - What?
7pm?
- I was so surprised. - You mean, 7am?
- No. - She can't even eat with them.
Don't people usually gather at 7pm?
- Since we finish work at 5pm, - I see.
we have team dinner early.
When he's driving, and the car in front of him is poor at driving,
he says, "I'm sure the driver is a woman."
- He says that. - "The driver must be a woman."
- He has a prejudice against women. - Yes. He thinks it must be a woman.
He also says, "She should be handling a cauldron lid at home."
"Why is she driving a car on a road instead?"
"Handling a cauldron lid"?
What does "handling a cauldron lid" mean?
He means that she should be doing house chores at home.
It's an old expression.
People these days wouldn't even understand what that means.
By any chance, does your husband...
talk big when he meets other people like he does at home?
He doesn't act like that when he meets other people.
- So he acts that way only at home? - Yes.
He acts as if he's a king when he's home.
He acts like a king.
(He acts like a king at home.)
I want to get some rest on holidays,
but he tells me to make all three meals for him...
or give him a cup of water.
When we get in an elevator,
he even tells me to push the button.
- In an elevator? - "It's also a woman's job."
- "A man doesn't do that." - Why should a woman do that?
Then how can he use the elevator when he comes home after work?
Does he take the stairs?
(How dare a man push the button?)
He can't push the button because he's a man.
(That feels so good.)
What else does he do?
When we order delivery food, he says, "I earn money. I'll pay,"
"so you make a call and order the food."
But you said both you and your husband have a job.
Why didn't you tell him to order food saying you would pay?
I have tried it before.
- What did he say? - He kept saying he would pay.
I think he just doesn't want to order food.
(He always makes his wife run errands.)
But each of us pays half of our living expenses.
- You pay half? - Yes.
And you look after your children too.
Yes. I pay their academy fees.
Oh, gosh.
- That must cost you a lot. - That's right.
Does he let you spend your money you earned just as you want?
No. When I buy some bread with my credit card...
because I'm craving bread,
he complains that I spend money thoughtlessly.
Why would he say anything when you bought it with your money?
- She must be sad. - She must be very upset about it.
- Of course. - She was just craving bread.
- How could he say that? - Exactly.
And she bought it with the money she earned.
So just like the title, when he's at home,
does he treat you like a pushover?
He walks all over me...
just because I'm his family, and he's comfortable around me.
He once said,
(My husband said...)
"If I had married a rich woman, my life wouldn't be this hard,"
"and I would be living in a fancy house..."
"without having to work hard."
- He said such things often. - He puts the blame on his wife.
Doesn't it sound like an old novel or drama?
That's unbelievable.
I feel like I'm watching a historical drama.
Her husband may have his own reasons.
Nevertheless, if he says such things,
- it hurts her feelings. - Of course.
- We should hear her husband out. - Yes.
- Your husband is over there, right? - Yes.
I see. He's sitting down as a tough guy.
(Clenching her teeth)
Let's meet her husband who acts like a king. Hello.
- Hello. - Hello.
(Who is the husband who wants to be a king at home?)
It's nice to meet you.
I'm not glad to meet you.
He's already upset.
- He's already upset. - Already?
Do you mean you're not glad to see me or your wife?
All of you.
I'm not glad to see any of you.
Are you upset?
I'm not upset. I'm angry.
Is it because of what your wife told us?
(He's upset, angry, and doesn't want to answer.)
(Perplexed)
Please tell us what makes you angry.
I don't understand what I have done wrong.
You don't understand what she said?
I may not do house chores for my family members,
but I do my own laundry and wash my own sneakers.
So you do it only when you need to do it.
I do my own laundry.
- Is that right? - Yes.
Sir, let me ask you a question.
Do you feel much more comfortable to speak to the male MCs than me?
No.
You said you were angry when I asked.
I'm afraid you might not want a woman to talk to you.
- Can a woman talk to him? - Okay.
Is it okay if I talk to you?
- Yes, it's okay. - She got hurt.
- I see. - Can I ask you something?
Yes.
I don't think it's a good idea.
After hearing the story,
I assumed you'd be in your 60s or 70s. But you look a lot younger.
Yes, I'm young.
- How old are you? - I'm 46.
- He was born in 1974. - You were born in 1974?
- The Year of the Tiger. - We're the same age.
(They were both born in 1974.)
- You and I are the same age. - Right.
- Ji Young, you're sneaky. - Why?
Are you just going to ask him his age?
- For now. - What are you doing?
I want to break the ice first.
I thought she was going to ask something very sensitive.
- "Can I ask you something?" - Exactly.
"Are we the same age? We are."
(Nice to meet you.)
What is this?
I'm scared he'll get angry at me.
- Hae Na. - Yes?
Be bold and ask him something.
You're not even that old.
Why can't you look him in the eye?
Where are you looking?
- Everyone is scared. - Why do you...
always say, "How dare a woman do that?"
What's the reason?
It's just the way I've been living.
It's just something I always say.
Did your parents or uncles say that a lot?
Or did your friends say that?
- My friends did. - Your friends did?
Did your parents also talk that way?
They didn't.
- Pardon? - My father didn't talk that way.
(What?)
(What did you say?)
- Your father didn't talk that way? - No.
- There's no background. - You just copied your friends?
- Yes. - I see.
(This man is extraordinary.)
Do you think pressing the elevator button...
and ordering food on the phone are women's jobs?
- When I want to do it, I do it. - Why...
When I don't do it, my wife does it.
About ordering food on the phone, I was joking.
- You were joking. - I knew it.
If you were really joking,
do you order food on the phone half of the time?
I do it 20 to 30 percent of the time.
I think I do it 90 percent of the time.
- There's a difference. - They're saying different things.
- The numbers are different. - I know.
Then why do you not let your wife go to team dinners?
(Do you...)
(have a problem...)
(with that?)
Isn't 7pm too early?
- Right? - She can go,
but she comes home too late.
- Is 7pm late? - She comes home by 7pm.
It's not like that. Sometimes,
- she comes home at dawn. - What time?
10pm.
(Is 10pm dawn?)
She comes home after 10pm.
- Is 10pm dawn? - 10pm?
(Dinners are at peak around 10pm.)
- 10pm? - Does he mean 10am?
She usually comes home around 10pm.
It's dawn.
How often does she go to those team dinners?
Once a month at the most.
- "Once a month at the most"? - I tell her not to go.
Do you never go to team dinners?
I often have team dinners.
Then why can't your wife...
- What time do you come home... - Sometimes at dawn.
- 2am? - "Dawn"...
has a different meaning in their family.
What time is the dawn for you?
2 to 3am.
- 2 to 3am. - 2 to 3am.
Shouldn't it be equal? If the husband comes home late...
once a week, the wife should be allowed...
to come home late once a week too.
Then if I come home early every day, will she come home every day?
- If you make such an agreement... - Then she'd be home every day.
- Maybe. - When men say something,
you don't react that way.
But when women say something, he reacts so aggressively.
Do I look easy because we're the same age?
"Because we're the same age"?
Do I look easy? Do you know how much I weigh?
(Do you know how much I weigh?)
(How dare a thin man talk to me that way?)
(Satisfied)
"I'm suffering so much because of you three."
- Why... - How could he say that?
did you say that?
I say that when I'm drunk.
Still, how could you say your family was making you suffer?
Wouldn't that hurt your family?
I work as a tow truck driver.
You drive a tow truck.
I've had many car accidents.
The work I do makes me very physically exhausting.
I see.
That might have...
affected my personality.
He thinks of himself...
as a physical worker.
He thinks it's much easier for me...
because I work in an office.
That's why he treats his family...
I get angry because something bothers me.
My son doesn't clean up...
after eating snacks.
Can't you clean up for him?
It happens too often.
I can't clean up for him every time.
Also, when I'm drunk,
I express my affection in a little aggressive way.
Then my sons don't like it.
- It makes me angry. - It makes you angry.
I work too.
Isn't it understandable if our place isn't clean all the time?
- Of course. - It's understandable.
It's not like I don't do any house chores at all.
I do a lot.
- But he's not satisfied. - Right.
If he comes home drunk...
and I'm doing the dishes,
he tells me it's noisy.
It makes me sigh.
Then he says, "I've been supporting you for the past 17 years."
- "What makes you..." - "What makes you sigh?"
But you've been working...
- for the past 17 years too. - Yes, I have.
When you come home drunk,
how do you express your affection towards your sons?
I pinch their cheeks or spank them.
- Your son is in eighth grade. - That sounds painful.
- Your son is in eighth grade. - That's...
If an eighth grader is approached by his dad at night,
he'd instinctively avoid him.
I don't do that late at night. Just around 10pm...
You said 10pm is dawn.
10pm is dawn.
He says he shows his affection to his sons.
Is it true?
He is a tough man. He tells them men have to be strong.
He tells them men have to be good at sports.
He says many things like that.
To his sons, he says, "Men have to be this way."
- "Men have to be this way." - Yes. "Men have to be this way."
- To you, he says, "Women should..." - "Women should..."
"How dare a woman..."
Do your sons like their dad?
They do, so I'm worried.
Our second son is becoming like his dad.
Is he short-tempered?
Yes. He thinks men have to be...
a certain way.
By the time your sons are grown up,
the society will look very different.
If he says those things,
he will be left out...
by his male friends.
And no woman will want to be with him.
Do you want your sons to be like you?
No. I trust they'll do well.
- Your sons? - Yes.
But your wife says...
No. My sons are popular.
(His confidence leaves everyone speechless.)
(It's impossible to talk to him.)
My husband tells our sons...
that they should meet rich women.
- What? - He tells them that...
from time to time.
It must hurt you.
It's just something I say. I don't mean it.
How many times do you think you've said that in the past 17 years?
I'm not sure.
He says it often.
Is it true that you say it often?
I said I don't remember.
I want to ask...
It's not that I didn't say it often.
- I just don't remember. - He doesn't want to talk to women.
After you said that,
when you sobered up the next morning,
did you apologize to your wife?
- I don't apologize. - He doesn't.
Why not? Because you're a man?
- Yes. - Because he's a man.
(A man has his pride.)
- Men never apologize. - I'm too shy.
It's a manly thing to say you're sorry.
Why are you so afraid?
You make a lot of money, and your two sons love you.
Also, your wife is here today because she loves you.
Are you afraid you'll lose your family's love?
Is that why you pretend to be so tough?
That's not it.
Then why do you do that? I don't understand.
We're family. We're comfortable around.
When I come home, I want to relax.
I want to do what I want.
- I expect them to understand me. - In that case...
- I understand you. - Then can your sons...
and wife say and do whatever they want at home...
because you're their dad and husband?
- No. - They're stressed outside too.
It's absurd to think that you can do that...
while the other family members can't.
(I'm a man too, but this is frustrating.)
Are there any other things that he says often?
He often tells us to get out.
- Then... - Have you ever really left home?
Yes, about five times.
I left home many times.
I did once recently too.
I slept at an inn for two nights.
- As many as two nights? - Yes.
Then why do you come back home?
He calls me...
- and tells me to come back home. - Does he say he's sorry?
- He's never said he's sorry. - Never?
He never says he's sorry.
I've thought about getting a divorce many times.
The thought of getting a divorce is...
always at the back of my mind.
- Really... - Oh, my.
She is not a talkative type, but she even came on this show.
She must really want to make up her mind.
- That's why she's here today. - For the past 17 years...
- Seriously. - She must have put up with a lot.
(Does her husband understand why she suffers so much?)
Now that you two are here,
is it okay if your wife says everything she wants to say?
Will you get angry and blame her later?
- He got angry earlier too. - You'll not...
hold a grudge, will you?
(He is already angry.)
Why aren't you answering?
- Tell us. - You're a man.
You should promise that for her to be able to talk.
Do you want your wife to get stressed out...
and get sick? Or do you want her to speak her mind...
- while she's here? - I'll listen to her.
- Are you sure? - Yes.
- She will talk then. - You don't sound sincere.
(Talk all you want.)
Have you ever talked about getting a divorce in front of your kids?
Yes, we have.
- In front of your kids? - Yes.
Our first son said he'd decide...
which of us he'd follow if that happens.
But my second son didn't say anything.
Gosh. It must be very hard for the kids as well.
(Even their children are hurt.)
(They're making me a sinner.)
Her elder sisters, her reliable supporters, are also here.
- Are they? - It must be hard for her,
but watching her living like that must have broken...
her sisters' hearts.
Let's meet with her sisters. Hello.
- Hello. - Hello.
(Hello.)
I said that you must have been so upset when I introduced you two,
but you're smiling so happily.
(Smiling)
I was so surprised.
How do you feel now that you have heard what your sister said?
It's true that her husband loses his temper...
even when he's with our family.
One time, we all went on a trip with my dad...
to a resort that was far away from home.
He complained that the resort was too far away...
and how cold it was there.
My sister tried to make him stop complaining.
She said, "Can't you just let it go since we're on vacation?"
He got angry and left saying he was going home.
He has done things like this.
He has a bad temper. It makes me upset.
So your husband yells at you even in front of...
your family, right?
He's the youngest son-in-law in my family.
My dad passed away last year.
And...
I see.
At his funeral... He did it twice.
Both of my parents passed away.
(At her parents' funeral...)
He was drunk at both times.
I have bad memories of their funeral.
My mom passed away seven years ago.
My nephew did something wrong first.
So he got angry.
Since he was drunk,
although the funeral wasn't even over,
he said he would leave...
and go home.
(It makes me shake my head.)
(Why don't you think of your wife's position?)
(It's not fair.)
So my brother-in-law stopped him...
and scolded him.
You should have finished the funeral no matter what, right?
(Why did he cause a commotion?)
You knew that, right?
I don't remember why he got angry,
but he came up to me and threw down a pen and notebook in front of me.
Then let's say something happens at your family's funeral...
and that made your wife angry.
Although it's something that would make anyone angry and storm out,
would it be right of her to storm out?
- But I didn't... - Would it be right or not?
- Just be cool and admit it. - Can she storm out?
- It's okay from your perspective. - Right.
She shouldn't do that.
Why not?
(So you do know that it was wrong!)
- She shouldn't, but... Yes, I am. - Sir, are you an adult or...
I'm sure I didn't actually leave. I think I just bluffed.
- Then can she say such a thing? - There were guests there.
There were no guests.
(Speechless)
That's a relief.
(That's a relief.)
There were no guests.
My goodness.
(Applauding the guest who's been living with him for 17 years)
You can say that it's a drinking problem,
but in fact, it's a matter of how you express your feelings.
As if there's a rank structure in your family,
you don't allow your family members to do what you do as you please.
For example, if your supervisor at work...
scolds you in front of your sons...
I never do anything that would cause such a thing.
The reason why I said it is...
If you yell at your wife...
in front of her family, they can tell how badly you must treat her...
at home judging from how you treat her in front of them.
I think the moment her embarrassing fact is exposed to her family,
she must be too ashamed to see them and feel so distressed.
My wife also did some things that made me upset.
Obviously, that's why I behaved like that.
What did she do...
By the way, I keep speaking formally to you,
but you're speaking casually to me.
(You're speaking casually to me.)
Please speak formally to me.
- Yes, I will. - I'm older than you.
He is 52.
(She exaggerate it a little.)
- He is scary. - And I weigh 80kg!
(Embarrassed)
She spends too much money.
She's a big spender.
My son and I didn't want to...
move to another house.
We liked the old house we used to live in.
We took out a 100,000-dollar loan to move to a new house.
I directly asked him what he thought about it,
and he agreed to move to a new house.
Why are you holding a grudge when you agreed on it?
- Exactly. - I didn't agree with it.
I came home drunk, so I was very tired.
But she kept pestering me.
Who could refuse it? Anyone would be tired of it.
- You could've said it next morning. - You should've told her.
- What? - Exactly.
She kept calling me and waking me up.
I can't hang up the phone because of my job.
You just spoke rudely again.
(Tae Gyun is also older than him.)
Hold on. I think we should speak casually to him too.
All right.
You can tell us.
From what we heard so far...
(Embarrassed)
(Stop complaining.)
You remembered it the next day,
but you didn't want to go back on your word?
Is that why you didn't say you didn't want to move?
- Speak casually. - Is that the reason?
(Is that the reason?)
- Tell us. - That doesn't matter.
She said she would take care of everything...
and pay off the debt by herself.
Then why am I paying the debt now?
- Is he paying all the debt? - Did he say he would pay the debt?
He said we should take a loan out in his name...
and he would pay off the debt,
and he asked me to pay part of our living expenses.
But it looks like he thinks it's a waste of money.
Hang on a second. So you took the loan out in your name, right?
- Yes. - Yes.
Why didn't you take it out in her name, so she would pay it off?
She wouldn't have paid it off even if I had done it.
- I can assure you that. - But it didn't happen.
- You're just assuming that. - There's no way she would have.
Would you feel better if she starts paying the debt now?
- Yes. But I paid most of it. - So it's too late?
(Pathetic)
(We don't even know what to write on the screen.)
Why do you still hold a grudge when you paid most of it?
- He almost paid it off. - All right. Then...
(I want to press the button now.)
Do you want to continue living while holding a grudge against her?
Your wife will be distressed,
and your kids will always be on pins and needles when you two fight.
Do you want to live like that for the rest of your life?
No. We're a happy family.
- Pardon me? - We're a happy family.
- What are you talking about? - Who says that?
- Now... - Who...
- you can make your family happy. - Of course.
To make other people also think that your family is happy...
It's not easy to say sorry constantly, but you can...
- try not to make mistakes. - That's right.
- You can change gradually. - Yes.
Sir, call your wife with affection and say...
(Through this long conversation, )
(did he realize what was wrong?)
(Snorting)
(Apology, my foot!)
(He is unbelievable as expected.)
Exactly. This is the exactly my point.
- An apology can solve many things. - That's right.
Don't think it hurts your pride to apologize to your wife.
A real man who has courage...
- should know how to apologize. - Absolutely.
You should apologize to younger people if you have to.
- And to your children. - And to your children.
You must admit what you did wrong and apologize to everyone.
(Try to sincerely apologize.)
(Please.)
I tend to get angry often,
and I don't show her much respect when we go out.
I will try to show her more respect from now on.
(I will be respectful to you from now on.)
I will change my mindset.
That's nice.
Do you want to apologize for saying it?
"You don't do anything at home."
(You're sorry for saying it, right?)
I know she does many things,
but I'm just not good at expressing my feelings.
You didn't mean it, right? Your wife is the best, right?
Yes. Let's live happily from now on.
(Let's live happily from now on.)
Do you really think you did wrong?
- I did wrong. - Are you sorry to her?
- I'm sorry to her. - Do you mean it?
Yes, I do.
Beg for her forgiveness with your hands together.
"Honey, I'm sorry."
(Honey, I'm sorry.)
That's great.
(The wounds in her heart are healing slowly.)
I want to thank him for coming on the show. I think it's so great.
The thought of how he'll change makes me so happy right now.
Tell him you love him.
I love you, and I will love you forever.
(I will love you forever.)
(We hope you'll become a good man, husband, and dad...)
(who treats his wife with respect, )
(and can be his children's idol.)
San Deul, do you think it's a worry?
I think it's a worry.
There are so many situations...
where you think you can do it, but your wife shouldn't.
I think it's a worry.
I also think it's a worry.
But I believe he can change since he took his first step by apologizing.
- It was great of him. - I think he'll be a better man.
If you think that you can do everything for your wife as a man...
instead of thinking that she must do everything as a woman...
If you think it's a worry going through this for 17 years,
please press the button.
(What does the audience think?)
- 5, 4, 3, 2, 1. - 5, 4, 3, 2, 1.
Time's up.
How many votes did "Am I a Pushover?" get?
(The result)
(The last digit is 1.)
(Pouting)
How many of them think it's a worry?
- 161 votes! - My gosh.
(I can't believe this.)
(161 votes)
"See No One Else But Me!"
Hello. I'm a man in my 30s,
and I am in a very passionate relationship unintentionally.
My girlfriend is pretty...
and really cool and passionate.
"Honey, you're cold, right?"
"Cover yourself with my clothes."
"What are you doing?"
"You must be cold. Wear my clothes."
"And give me your bag too. I will hold it for you."
My goodness.
She's three years younger than me,
and yet she's chivalrous and considerate.
- I envy him. - But...
"Honey, I am meeting up with my college friends this weekend."
"What? Your college friends?"
"Will there be girls?"
"There will be girls too, but they are just friends."
"No! A man and a woman can never be friends."
"Don't go. Don't you dare go."
She's completely inflexible when it comes to me...
having female friends.
But they are just friends and nothing more.
So why does she worry so much?
She even does this. "Give me your phone."
"Why do you need my phone?"
"Why? Are you hiding something?"
"If you have nothing to hide, tell me the passcode."
"What's wrong with you? You are sick."
"What? Sick? You son of..."
(She swore at him.)
(He's shocked.)
- Really? - You're making it up.
- Is it there? - It's really there.
- Is it? - It's really there.
- It says "Son and a female dog". - You didn't make it up.
- Son and a female dog. - Yes.
- It was really there. - Son and a female dog. Right.
She's becoming more jealous and more obsessive.
Should I sever all my friendships for my girlfriend?
Please teach my girlfriend the right way to love.
He sent us a letter.
(Please teach my girlfriend the right way to love.)
It's not common for a girl to be that obsessive.
It's rare, isn't it?
But isn't it better to be obsessed...
about your lover?
- To a degree. Yes. - Right.
- Really? - She sounds scary.
You must be the obsessive type.
Did your hair turn gray because you got upset?
She surprised me.
If his girlfriend is so worried, I think he should share...
- his passcode with her. - Really?
Is that the dating style now?
My husband and I...
just check if each other is alive.
How about when you were dating?
Even when we were dating. We were on TV.
You saw each other on TV.
- You saw each other. - You guys are on TV.
Tae Gyun's wife is very chill.
- She never calls me. - Right.
Even if he's with his female friend, she doesn't call him.
Even when you are drinking with your female friend.
- My female friend? - Me.
- We were drinking. - You are too reliable.
- That's why she doesn't call. - Yes.
- You are reliable. - I protect him.
Let's meet him. Please come on out.
(Who is worried about his obsessive girlfriend?)
(What?)
Please come on down.
Hello. I am Kim Joo Young, and I am 31 years old.
I work as a teacher at an alternative school.
- An alternative school. - An alternative school.
(He takes a peek.)
Dear audience, you shouldn't do that.
"His girlfriend is worried that another girl will hit on him."
"He must be very handsome." But when he came out...
(They became speechless.)
I heard someone do that.
- Don't do that. - You shouldn't.
Why is your girlfriend so worried?
My girlfriend even got hit on...
while walking on a street.
But I am not that good-looking.
Why would you say that?
- Come on. - What does that make us?
Who knows? You might have gotten hit on for all we know.
- Right. - I know myself.
My girlfriend lived in China...
for a long time.
Perhaps it's because of the culture she got accustomed to.
In winter, she gets cold more easily.
- But? - But she still gives me her jacket.
- That's love. - She keeps offering...
to hold my bag.
- When there are people around, - That's love.
those things embarrass me.
Could it be that you are considered handsome in China?
I don't think so.
Well done.
But those kind gestures aren't bad.
Aren't they good?
For the kindness to be appreciated, the other person has to want it.
She's not actually considerate...
when it comes to the things I actually want.
What are the things you want?
Female friends are the biggest problem.
The matters involving my female friends.
She becomes uncomfortable when there's even one girl in the group.
Men who treat women well often get misunderstood.
- That's right. - Being kind to all.
As you live a social life,
I think being kind to others is good.
But I don't give unnecessary favors...
to be nice to people.
Right. You don't sound too sweet.
- He sounds rather strict. - Because he's a teacher,
I think he speaks differently.
It's...
(Do I do that?)
Do you have an unusually large number of female friends?
No. I...
Why not?
- I am sorry. - I speak...
strangely, don't I? Yes.
He admits it.
Even if I combine friends from church and school,
I only have about 10 female friends.
The group of friends I meet the most often meets four times a year.
One time, my friend whom I don't often talk to...
left a comment on my social media page.
Upon seeing that, my girlfriend asked me how I know her.
She became jealous.
When I refused to let her register her fingerprint on my phone,
she said I must have done something wrong.
Did she do it then?
She did in the end,
but it proved to be doing no good. So I deleted it.
You deleted it.
(Why can't she trust me?)
By the way, when we are young,
we meet a variety of people.
You meet someone who seems very compatible with you.
But when you date, you realize that she's very different from you.
You realize it,
and you meet another person.
And each time, you get better.
You are right. I am aware that a lot of people...
think we can just split up.
But I believe dating is a preparation for marriage.
- That's why... - Of course.
You are taking it seriously because you want to marry her.
Right. I want to marry her.
No matter how much...
I tell her I love her,
if she can't completely trust me,
we can't have a happy marriage.
You can't.
(He's very serious.)
Let's meet with his girlfriend. Hello.
Hello.
- She's beautiful. - She's beautiful.
- She's really beautiful. - She's really beautiful.
She seems very fragile.
Let's meet with his girlfriend. Hello.
Hello.
- She's beautiful. - She's beautiful.
- She's really beautiful. - She's really beautiful.
(She's really beautiful.)
She seems very fragile.
Do you really take off your coat for him...
and hold his bag?
That's how I express my love.
I know he's stronger than me.
But you want to make him less tired.
That's why you hold his bag.
- Yes. - You want him to be less cold.
I was shocked that he thought it was strange.
(Is she an angel?)
Did you do the same thing to your ex-boyfriend?
Yes. I used to do that.
Why did you ask her that?
- That was not necessary. - By the way,
we know you don't have a boyfriend now,
but why do you always try to break up a couple?
- You are mean. - Do you really think...
a man and a woman can't be friends?
That's what I think. Because...
the fact that they stay as friends...
means that one of them secretly has...
feelings for the other person. That's what I think.
There's a possibility, but not everyone is like that.
What?
Do you not have any male friends?
I don't. I don't have one now, and I didn't have one before.
(He is speechless.)
What do you think...
of his female friends?
I've met a few.
They are all pretty. That's what I thought.
Honestly, I don't think I am pretty.
What?
- Do you not have a mirror? - They are prettier than me.
I am afraid they will approach my boyfriend...
with a foxy smile.
(She's afraid they will approach her boyfriend like a fox.)
It's not that you don't trust your boyfriend.
(He is tilting his head.)
What I am worried about is this.
He's not kind to just me. He's kind to his female friends too.
- He's very sweet to them. - That's the problem.
We went to attend a lecture of someone we know.
His female friend who was also there...
asked him to have a meal.
He said okay. But I felt left out.
He grilled meat for her.
- I wasn't even feeling well. - He grilled meat for her?
- Yes. - That's love.
(Who wants to grill Yeong Ja meat?)
I think you shouldn't have done that.
Right.
- About that... - It's too easy.
- Do you admit it? - He admits his fault too fast.
When she told me about it later,
I realized I shouldn't have done it. So I apologized to her.
- Apologizing is important. - Yes.
- You apologized, right? - Yes.
Good. You need to apologize.
By the way, he looks at himself objectively...
with a third person's point-of-view.
- I have nothing to say. - I have nothing to say.
What makes me anxious is this.
He's on social media when I am not.
I am not on social media, so why should he be?
I don't understand it.
I want him to use that time on me and give me his full attention.
But even so,
not all couples...
share phone passcodes and check each other's phone.
- Of course, not. - I think it's only natural.
There's nothing to hide, so why won't he share his passcode with me?
(Right.)
(What? She would go that far?)
But it's the matter of privacy.
Isn't love too difficult?
Just quit it, like me.
(The life guru resolved the situation.)
Why do you make your life so hard?
Let's ask the audience.
Honestly,
if you think a man and a woman can be friends,
please press the button.
Please press the button.
(Pressing the button)
(The number is skyrocketing.)
(See?)
(No way.)
- A lot of people voted. - Many people voted.
- 5, 4. - If you are in a relationship...
3, 2, 1.
Time's up.
Out of 200, 123 people said a man and a female...
(123 out of 200 people said yes.)
- They can be friends. - They can be friends.
- 77 people... - Who didn't press the button?
Can we see gender? Who didn't press the button?
- 1, 2, 3. - Please raise your hand.
- Who didn't press the button? - There are a lot of girls.
What do you think, Mustard T-shirt?
- They are lovely. - They are a couple.
Did you press it because you were conscious of your girlfriend?
Or is that your own opinion?
It's my own opinion.
You chose not to press the button.
(See? They can't be friends.)
I think the friendship continues...
because one of them has feelings for the other person.
That's how I usually ended up in a relationship.
(He turned friendship into love.)
Do you share your phone passcodes?
Yes, we do.
People do that.
Is it a natural thing to do for you?
- We don't check each other's phone. - We don't.
We don't check each other's phone because we trust each other.
You trust each other.
Were there times when she misunderstood you...
when there was nothing to misunderstand?
At school, students once wrote letters.
One female student wrote a letter to her mother.
I knew her situation,
so I got emotional, and I got tearful.
- That's understandable. - Seeing that,
she got upset because I cried for another girl.
- She said that. - She was a student.
What is that?
- She's cute. - That's bad.
Wait. She knew she was your student.
- She's a student and a teenager. - She's a teenager.
- She knew about it? - Yes.
I feel bad seeing him caring so much...
about another person.
You want that only for yourself too?
You only want him to care about you.
Yes.
(She becomes speechless.)
He said you lived in China for a long time.
Is your family all here?
Because of my family situation,
I went to China when I was little.
I was alone without my parents.
- For a long time. - Yes.
I didn't have any friends to talk about my feelings.
So I always kept things to myself.
Even when I came to Korea, because my Korean was bad,
people looked at me with suspicious eyes.
They said my accent was weird.
That made me become even more close-minded.
But I get to say anything I want to my boyfriend.
- You can depend on him. - Yes.
- My mind... - So your boyfriend...
isn't just your boyfriend.
- He's your family, friend, brother, - Right.
- colleague, and everything. - I depend a lot on him.
(That's why she's more obsessed about him.)
But that's not all.
One thing happened.
One time, people suspected that he and another young...
female teacher from school were in a relationship.
(Really?)
When we were already dating,
he touched her back.
(That's not okay.)
I don't even remember what happened.
She's nothing more than a colleague.
There was a time when I thought about getting another job.
But I arrived at a conclusion that I should stick with my job.
I told my girlfriend that.
And she asked if I can't quit because of that teacher.
And I was shocked to hear it.
(He must be really tired.)
Do you think of your boyfriend...
as a playboy?
- Playboy? - I mean...
- Come on. - Are you that nervous?
Why are you suspecting that teacher?
She's really pretty, and she's got a nice body.
- You think she's better than you? - Yes.
Today, we managed to invite his female friends to the studio.
(His female friends are here.)
- They are all here? - Yes.
It's awkward between them.
How are you related to him?
I work at the same school as Joo Young.
I am that colleague in question.
- No way. - He touched her back.
- The back. - I am that colleague.
(No way!)
(Is it a drama or what?)
- Did you know about that story? - Why...
did he pat your back?
- Did you have an upset stomach? - Do you remember it?
It's my first-time hearing about it.
- I had no idea. - You had no idea.
I heard it only now.
In school, there was a rumor...
that you are in a relationship.
Do you really have no feelings for each other?
Yes. First of all, I had no idea that...
there was such a rumor.
I started the work slightly earlier than him.
So I could see the troubles...
he was going through.
I sympathized with him and talked to him.
He's not the type...
I am into.
We know. Just don't say it.
Please.
(We have a lot to say, but we won't.)
As a girlfriend, when you hear such a thing,
are you relieved? Or are you upset that she's disregarding...
the man you love the most in the world?
Which one is it between the two?
First.
- You are relieved? - Yes.
(She feels at ease.)
Really?
This problem can be solved easily.
- Right. - She might not feel good.
We just need testimonies.
They can say that they don't see him as a man.
Is he popular at school?
(She hesitates.)
Wait. All right. All right.
(She's happy.)
The one next to her. Please introduce yourself.
I am Joo Young's ex...
(Joo Young's ex what?)
(Ex-girlfriend?)
(How dare you?)
I am his ex-colleague.
- I am his friend. - You shocked us there.
- Same here. - I thought she was ex-girlfriend.
I thought our writer made a mistake.
She said "ex" twice. And that surprised me.
She's her ex-colleague.
You've heard everything. What do you think?
I sympathize with his girlfriend.
Why? Is he unreliable?
That's not it. We became close because...
he greeted me in a way that other men don't.
- For example? - What did he do?
"Hello!" Like this?
- He could've done that. - Or like this.
"You cut your bangs. You changed your eye makeup."
He said those things.
- He pays attention to details. - Yes. He's very attentive.
"You cut your bangs. You changed your eye makeup."
(She frowns.)
(He said things that would make girls' hearts race.)
He was very attentive.
He can't do that. That's a no-no.
(If you are curious about the ending, don't go anywhere.)
Let me ask you then.
Do you not want him to meet these girls,
not even once or twice a year?
Yes. I can't understand why he would go and meet them.
I don't know why he would spend time to go and meet someone else.
If his colleague is really pretty and nice,
do you think your boyfriend...
will go to that person? Is that why you are worried?
- Because they might hit off? - Yes. They might.
Yes.
(Why would I leave you?)
(She clearly doesn't trust him. Where should they begin?)
I am saying this since you mentioned about a pretty girl.
We were having a barbecue at a restaurant.
While eating... I didn't even turn my head.
I lifted my head while eating.
Some girl must've passed by.
(A girl passed by at that moment.)
- But... - "Don't lift your head."
Soon after, she yelled at me.
She asked me why I stared at a pretty woman.
I was so dumbfounded that I told her this.
I happened to lift my head at that exact moment.
Why did you lift your head at that moment?
One time, we were walking on a street,
and we saw a couple hugging each other.
I looked at them, saying "Why are they doing that in public?"
And she suddenly let go of my hand.
She said the girl's pretty and that I stared at her attentively.
(It's miraculous reasoning.)
(It's tiring.)
- What? - I asked her if it's okay...
if I look at a girl who she doesn't think is pretty.
She said that was okay.
It's okay as long as the girl is not pretty?
Yes.
What makes me sad is...
- that her self-esteem is too low. - Right.
- These problems arise... - Right.
- because of that. - I feel bad.
But I don't think I am pretty.
(She doesn't think she's pretty.)
(What?)
(She must not look in the mirror.)
When I was young, I cried so many times...
because I thought I'm too ugly.
When I was in school, I couldn't talk in front of the class...
because I was too conscious of my appearance.
- What? - But you see...
Her self-esteem is very low.
This is really sad.
From start to end, you've been only talking about appearance.
Right.
Appearance is important,
but a person's charm comes from many different aspects.
Don't you think judging everything based on appearance is too foolish?
I think men only care about appearance.
(That's not true.)
(It's really not true.)
- My face is asymmetrical. - You were like that in China.
- Asymmetrical? - Your face is asymmetrical?
- My face is asymmetrical. - My face is asymmetrical too.
- Of course. - My eyes are of different sizes.
My nose is bent, and my lips are crooked.
- How about me? - I hate looking at...
my face on that screen.
- What? - Whose face?
- My face. - On that screen.
- You hate seeing yourself... - Really?
Why?
I know that my self-esteem is very low.
I understand it, but I can't seem to fix it.
There's no reason for her to have low self-esteem.
You've been living apart from your parents...
since you were young, and you've been doing so well.
You had to pave your way in many situations.
Don't you think you are amazing?
Of course.
- Don't you? - No.
- Why? - No.
(Her tough childhood makes her emotional.)
(He's surprised.)
(He's sad.)
Can you answer to Ji Young's question?
She said you should be proud of yourself.
I think anyone can do that.
- Not everyone can do that. - When faced with such a situation?
(His girlfriend's tears make him emotional too.)
When you decided to date your boyfriend,
did you see his appearance or his mind and thoughts?
I didn't care much about his appearance, of course.
She didn't care at all about your appearance.
She didn't care at all.
- She's... - He's the man.
(I am sorry.)
- Right. - "Of course".
She didn't care about his appearance, of course.
- Thoughts? - He had a warm heart.
- He's a warm-hearted man. - He's mature.
And he's honest. He doesn't have the appearance I wanted.
(He doesn't have the appearance she wanted.)
- Please. - Don't emphasize that.
Once is enough.
When it came to personality and psychology,
he was my ideal type of man.
You just said it. Your boyfriend is more honest than anyone.
He's warm-hearted, and he's considerate.
That man chose you.
Why would he keep looking at other girls?
In the end, the only person who can raise her self-esteem is...
him alone.
- Yes. - You should speak to her honestly.
When we see a celebrity on TV,
she asks me, "Who's prettier? Me or her?"
I don't say she's prettier just to raise her self-esteem.
"You are really pretty."
"No celebrities can be as pretty as you."
I told her that.
(He's so sweet.)
- So why can't you trust him? - I know.
He said the right answer.
If I was only dating her for her looks,
or if I was dating her...
only because I was afraid of breaking up with her,
how could I tell her to change and that it's a mental problem?
Why would I try so hard to make her get better?
That's not it.
Even when she's emotionally struggling,
I want her to not forget that I really love her.
(He really means it.)
My goodness.
(Trust him now.)
Honey,
I know things have been tough because of me. I love you much too.
When you go meet your female friends,
I won't say anything.
- She got much better. - She got a lot better.
- Yes. - This is a start.
You can go together.
If you think it's a worry, please press the button.
- I think it's not a worry. - Right.
I also think it's not a worry.
Trust yourself.
Try to trust your boyfriend more.
Then things will slowly get better.
For your boyfriend,
you should change your mind.
If you think...
it's a worry for him, please press the button.
(What does the audience think?)
- 5, 4, 3, 2, 1. - 5, 4, 3, 2, 1.
- Time's up. - Let's see how many votes he got.
Please show us the result.
(The result)
The last digit is five. Is it over 100?
100.
If he receives 165 votes, he can rank first.
- "See No One Else But Me!" - It's going up.
135.
(135 votes)
That's a very high number.
It's titled "We Are Sinners".
Hello.
I am a man in his 30s, and I work at a swimming pool.
I have a lot to learn from my company.
The CEO works very, very hard.
"What time will you come to work tomorrow?"
"Tomorrow is a holiday. There's no lesson."
"You won't come to work if there's no lesson?"
"Whether there's a lesson or not, someone has to be here."
My boss is a workaholic who never rests a day in a year.
But the problem is that he forces that on us too.
"Mr. Ma, did you finish everything I asked a while ago?"
"Not yet. I had a lot to do today."
"It was too hectic today, wasn't it?"
"You should hurry and go home now."
"We can do it tonight."
(We can do it tonight.)
- What? - Life with a free evening.
I can't even dream of it.
"Boss, I am not feeling well. I have to go to the clinic."
"What? Don't you know that being sick is a sin?"
"You can't go. You want to rest?"
"Resting is a sin too."
In front of our boss, we all become sinners.
Please stop our boss.
(Please stop our boss from working too much.)
Suk Joon, how would you feel if your boss was like him?
I don't think it's a worry.
You should leave.
You should just leave instead of worrying.
The boss won't change.
Is that why you resigned?
- Was it because of your boss? - That's why he resigned.
- Your boss wasn't good. - Did he not let you go home?
You've never resigned from your job. What would you know?
Let's bring in this man who's worried because of his boss.
Please come on out.
(Who's troubled because of his workaholic boss?)
[VIU Ver] E417 Hello Counselor "Unique Personality" -♥ Ruo Xi ♥-
(What?)
(Hello, everyone.)
(Ready to dive)
(Ma Woo Ram)
I thought he was going to slide down on his stomach.
We saw him only for a brief moment.
But I don't think he's the hardworking type.
He looks like the type who slacks.
Hello. I work at Yongin Children's Pool.
- That's near my house. - Is it?
I am Ma Woo Ram.
- I was curious. - Yes.
Hello. I work at Yongin Children's Pool.
Where in Yongin?
Hey.
Ma'am.
- I want to send my kid there. - Let him introduce himself.
I am Ma Woo Ram, and I am 35 years old.
- Woo Ram. - Yes.
You work at a pool.
What exactly do you do?
- Tell us. - I'm losing my day-offs.
My work hours are getting longer and longer.
I find it too tough, and that's why I'm here.
Do you just work as an instructor? What is your position?
I am the team leader.
- You are the team leader. - As a team leader,
I work Monday to Friday from 1pm to 10pm.
On Saturdays, I work from 9am to 3pm.
3pm.
I never left work on time.
You do other work after your work hour.
Yes. When I teach swimming,
I teach about 4 to 5 classes.
Because it's a children's pool,
I have to help the kids take a shower, wear lotion,
dry their hair, and put on their clothes.
I have to manage staffs.
That's not all. Kids watch a lot of...
webtoons and YouTube videos.
They watch a lot of YouTube videos.
I suggested that we market it through YouTube.
- And my boss said I should do it. - You shouldn't have said it.
When you suggested the idea, "You should do it then."
So I came up with...
the storyboard. I passed it to a storyboard company.
I had to constantly confirm the work too. If I wasn't done,
- I took it home and... - You worked at home.
worked on it until 5am.
I still didn't finish it, so I had to work the next day.
One time, I danced during our company party.
My boss saw it and told me...
to dance while wearing an animal costume...
when we hold a promotional event outside.
(He was asked to dance in an animal costume.)
- So... - You can't be good at anything.
- So now... - You should do nothing.
So now, during the meeting, the managers...
don't say anything.
- If you suggest something... - We don't talk.
- "You should do that." - You become in charge of it.
So we try not to say anything.
(I would do that too.)
- Great. - Let's watch the video.
You won't come even when there are things to do?
There's the office.
(The guest came to work.)
He came to work. What time is that?
That's the least busy day. It is on Saturday.
It is on Saturday.
That's when you are not busy?
(He practices narrating for a promotional video.)
You practice narrating for a promotional video.
Mr. Ma, please help the kids.
Okay.
- When they ask, you go. - Yes.
You run out in the middle of your practice.
- You dry kids' hair. - You dry every kid's hair.
You have to dry kids' hair and wipe them.
- That's really nice. - He's now teaching.
(The first class begins.)
That's a big swimming pool.
(The first class ends.)
The first class ended.
- He dries the kids' hair again. - You dry every kid's hair.
He's practicing the narration.
He's got no free time.
(It's time for your class, isn't it?)
It's time for the next class.
He moves like a machine.
The second class begins.
(It's not the same video.)
- That's not the same video, is it? - Oh, dear.
I think it keeps repeating.
He didn't have time to eat lunch.
He hasn't eaten.
(Sometimes he puts on the costume and promotes the pool.)
Oh, dear.
He works hard. Look at him dancing.
(After work)
You are good.
- Even at home... - Alone...
He does that alone at home.
That's the least busy day. Saturday.
- Yes. That's Saturday. - That's Saturday.
So that's considered not busy.
That's not busy.
In the past, because of overworking,
- my body was severely infected. - Right, if you are tired.
My doctor told me I had to rest.
- Right. - So...
I told my boss.
He said I couldn't take time off as a career in management.
"You can rest after the changeover."
I had to work for two additional weeks.
The problem is,
the boss doesn't take a break.
Doesn't he get sick?
Even when he gets sick, he doesn't take a break.
In summer, his fever rose to 38 or 39 degrees Celsius.
He said, "I feel really cold today."
He wore a winter parka.
- In summer? - He wore it to work.
- That's unbelievable. - He came to work,
oversaw everything,
and went home after everyone did.
The boss must be very passionate...
about work.
- Yes. - That's bothersome.
He is addicted to work.
- Anyone would acknowledge that. - He is a workaholic.
He maintains 2 or 3 jobs.
- He isn't only the boss. - What else does he do?
He teaches swimming lessons early in the morning.
- At another swimming pool? - Yes.
I was so frustrated...
that I told him about...
the work–life balance.
- We need to balance those two. - Yes. That's work–life balance.
When I told him about it,
he said,
"That's ridiculous. We need the work-work balance."
"We need to balance different works."
(They are incredulous.)
He said that.
- The work-work balance. - My goodness.
The work-work balance.
Even though you complained many times, he didn't listen?
Is it impossible to get through him?
He doesn't understand...
because the boss works more than we do.
Let's meet the boss...
who came up with the work-work balance.
Hello.
- Hello. - There he is.
(The boss who wants his employees to be workaholics)
Mr. Ma has dark bags under his eyes.
He is struggling at work. Do you understand his worry?
- I don't think it's a worry. - Of course, you don't.
From the way he talks,
he is so cool. He works hard.
(You are the coolest when you are struggling.)
This is a disaster.
"I should make him work harder."
(I can see why he is struggling.)
Why did you agree to visit the show?
Young people delude themselves with the work-life balance...
and slack off at work.
I visited the show because I have a lot to say about that.
You have a lot to say about society?
Yes.
(What is he saying?)
The work-work balance is something...
- I haven't heard before. - The work-work balance.
I have a main job and a side job.
I need to focus on the main job and do my best on the side job.
- That's his work-work balance. - Oh, I see.
Why do you work on Sundays?
I saw on the news...
that it's a way to overcomes the Monday blues.
They said going to work shortly on Sundays...
can cure the Monday blues, so I tried it.
It's really nice.
(Why did you rope me into it?)
When I am not at work, I become worried.
I feel like the pool will catch on fire.
I become worried.
- How will the pool catch on fire? - It won't be easy.
There is so much water.
It won't be easy.
(It won't catch on fire.)
As the boss, you can work as much as you want.
But you ask your employees to do the same.
Don't you think it will be hard on them?
The employees need to take ownership.
(Is he lecturing again?)
- What? - Ownership.
- Ownership. - They aren't the owner.
(They aren't the owner.)
How much do you get paid a month?
The money isn't a problem.
(Even a fortune won't fix this situation.)
I have a girlfriend of eight years.
- A girlfriend of eight years. - Yes. You know,
she is understanding about most things.
But because I work too much,
she told me that this is ridiculous.
(He must be sad.)
The coworkers who are suffering with you are here.
- Yes. - Vice President, are things hard?
Yes, things are very hard.
About three months ago, I was miserable with the flu.
I told him that I want to take a day off.
He said, "If you are sick, rest at your workplace."
"Your workplace is your home."
"How will you teach children..."
"with that kind of mindset?"
I had to work that day.
On the weekend,
we get missed calls at the office.
"Call back the numbers..."
"one by one..."
"and see what is up."
- My goodness. - One day, I told him...
I am stressed out. The boss said,
"I will give you a vacation. Don't come back to work."
He said that.
- That's mean. - "Don't come back to work."
He is like Nam Sung Jin.
He is sarcastic like Nam Sung Jin.
He is like my husband.
There is a commercial about how some people live...
with a resignation letter in their chest pocket.
Have you had that experience?
(He shoots a warning look.)
I don't think...
(He is wary of the boss.)
I have done that.
- Things didn't get that hard. - No.
That's not what you said to the scriptwriter.
It looks like you lost your nerve.
- You can't say what you want. - Seriously.
You must have wanted to quit.
"This is too hard."
I would be lying if I say I have never considered it.
I have worked with these men...
for over 15 years.
While the boss is very strict at the workplace,
he is warmhearted outside of work.
It looks like these people have...
deep friendship that goes beyond the business relationship.
Because of that, they can't quit even when they are asked to do...
an insane amount of work.
- That's why it's a worry. - That's right.
Are you wary of the boss?
Yes, I am.
- They are close. - It's understandable.
You won't hold grudges even if they are honest, will you?
Of course, not.
Look at your employees' faces.
(They are frozen.)
(They can't relax.)
There is one thing I really don't understand.
- Anyone can get sick. - That's right.
Can't you understand that?
Taking care of your health is a part of job performance.
If they rest at home after work, they won't get sick.
When they meet friends after work...
or go on a trip with a girlfriend, they get sick.
That's why...
- I say that. - Those things make up a life.
Are you saying...
they shouldn't meet their friends or girlfriend?
Do you take care of your health?
I developed eczema since I stay in the water a lot,
so I saw a dermatologist for over 10 years.
I was told not to come back since it doesn't get better.
- You grew a tolerance. - I grew a tolerance for steroids.
The employees wouldn't have anything to say.
Seriously. They need to quit.
There is no way for improvement.
It's an occupational disease.
(How can I stop the boss?)
The employee next to him is the boss's brother.
He must have the biggest worry.
I tried to mediate.
"The employees are struggling."
"Please be understanding." Then he goes,
"How many hours do you work in a day?"
"We work 10 hours a day."
The boss works 16 hours a day.
"If you are struggling, I should have died by now."
He only says that.
He doesn't encourage the employees for their hard work.
"This is your problem."
- He only points out the flaw. - He only points out the flaw.
Even after I work hard,
- You feel hurt. - he hurts my feelings.
(Things are harder because he is cold-hearted.)
This is what I am worried about.
How much time do you spend with your family?
On the weekend, I try to hang out with my children.
At the pool, children play...
for 5 minutes after a 50-minute class.
After I play with my children for five minutes,
I feel like I should send them home.
I can't play with them for a long time.
It became a habit.
Playing with them for five minutes makes you their uncle.
(Playing with them for 5 minutes makes you their uncle.)
- Still, - It's ridiculous.
your family is more important than work, right?
Work comes first.
(Work comes first.)
My family comes second.
(My family comes second.)
That's what I think.
The boss's wife would have the biggest worry.
From what we heard, you go,
"I work 16 hours a day, but you don't."
- "You work for 10 hours." - With that kind of logic,
you won't be able to communicate with anyone.
If there is too much work,
haven't you thought about finding a solution?
Children's pool gets many days off.
We get holidays and Sundays off.
We work until the 28th and take 3 days off.
The employees take turns to come to work during that time.
If they think it's hard,
they are wrong.
(He thinks they get enough rest.)
- You think they are wrong? - Yes.
Here is the problem.
Since we have a lot of work...
on a regular basis, we have to take work home.
Adding narration to a five-minute video...
- takes an entire day. - That's right.
- It isn't time effective. - No.
You want time to rest...
in order to live your life well.
Since I am human, I want some time to rest.
(Since I am human, I want some time to rest.)
You heard about the employees' wishes.
- Yes. - What do you think?
Do you have any plans?
There are employees...
who are struggling financially.
Instead of playing around,
(He lectures them without hesitation.)
They should save up on money.
I think it's only right.
(Why did they even have this conversation?)
My words are like an encouraging whip.
(He is devastated by how firm the boss is.)
- He is unique. - I want to tell you this.
Park Tae Hwan uses his energy a certain way...
for a 50m event, right?
- Yes. - He uses his energy differently...
for a 1,500m event.
- Yes. - You will go a long way, right?
- Yes. - But you run your business like...
you will go 50m.
- You can't go 1,500m this way. - You can't.
(You can't go 1,500m this way.)
To go a long distance, you need to take breaks.
With the energy for a 50m event,
you want to continue on.
"I am doing it, so you should do the same."
That's what you are doing.
(Stubborn)
You know that...
you shouldn't go into the water because you have eczema.
Right? You can work better when you take a break.
The employees don't have time...
to charge their energy.
Please tell us that you understood Yeong Ja.
Seriously.
- I am begging you. - I know.
(I heard her.)
Please tell your employees...
what you will do from now on.
Through our conversation...
(Could it be that...)
(the conversation changed his mind?)
I learned new things.
(I learned new things.)
I will make an effort.
(He will make an effort to change.)
I haven't been good with compliments.
I want to tell all employees who aren't present here too...
that I am always thankful.
(I am always thankful.)
All right.
(We cheer for your transformation.)
Let's start with San Deul.
Not everyone is like you.
You should treat them...
with compliments and rest.
You should think about how to restore their energy.
I think it's a worry.
I also think it's a worry.
If you think it's a worry, please press the button.
(Please send us your worries about yourself, family, and friends.)
- One. - Time's up.
Let's see the result.
(The result)
Did the worry get over 100 votes?
The worry needs 170 votes to win.
How many votes did it get?
130 votes.
(130 votes)
This week, "Am I a Pushover?" wins.
("Am I a Pushover?" wins.)
We will give the winner the prize money. Congratulations.
Until the day we are all worry-free,
Hello will continue to counsel you.
- Thank you. - Thank you.